Eeeek! No, one wants to think they are a bad friend, but yes we can be bad friends, and we must learn how to fix that immediately. Instead of just wondering why relationships do fall apart, or your friends are no longer wanting to hang out with you, it’s time to see these signs we tend to ignore often.
Ditching Your Friends
Have you ever made plans with a friend to only ditched by them? What makes it worse is when you hop on social media and see they are hanging with someone else? This has happened to me a couple of times. It’s not something you should be embarrassed by if it has happened to you. However, if you’re ditching your friend last moment there is a serious issue. Questions you need to ask yourself;
- Are you over booking your time with friends?
- Do you not value others time?
- Why are you unconcerned regarding other people’s time, feelings and more?
These questions need to be truly answered by yourself. It’s not cool to just ditch people because of lame excuses. Learn why are you doing this in the first place.
They’re Only There When They Need Something
This often happens to everyone on both ends of the stick. We tend only to reach out when we need something verse regularly checking in with others? People constantly ask me do I connects with XYZ without evening saying hello. The conversation stops when I say no. If you, only reach out when you need something how about taking the time to realize that you’re leveraging people and treating them like assets, not humans. Once a week, just check-in on people without needing anything in return. Shoot off a quick email or texting just checking in and making sure they are okay.
Venting, But Not Caring For Others
Are you the person who goes into woes as me soon as you get a friend on the phone or you see the bubbles pop up in imessage? To be honest, yes I know we all have life issues and want to just to talk to someone. However, energy matters and we cannot take on all types of it at once. Being there for your friends when they are going through something emotionally is very important. As stated in Three Ways To Support Women-Owned Business, emotional support is essential. One first thing you need to do is ask permission to see if it’s okay to vent. Just as if you’re going through something someone else might be too. One thing, I have done in recent years is go to therapy to help me with my issues verse just dumping them onto someone else.
It’s not okay to be a bad friend to others in life. It’s important to notice the signs of what it looks like to hurt others in the process. Take time to adjust your way of thinking, feeling and being there for others.
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